Who is your LOVED one ?
Posted by awaqas1 on September 17, 2007
The first benefit is that I observed mankind and saw that everyone had a loved one and one passionately desired whom he loved and longed for; and certain of those loved accompanied him to the illness of death and others to the border of the tomb, then each returned and left him alone and lonely, and there did not enter with him into the tomb and comfort him in it {[one of them; so I considered and said, the most excellent beloved of man is what enters into the tomb and comforts him in it]}; and I found it to be nothing else than good works, so I took this as my beloved, [to be] a light for me in my grave, and to comfort me in it and not leave me alone.
Hatim al-Asamm was among the friends of Shaqiq al-Balkhi the mercy of Allah be upon them both. Shaqiq asked him one day, and said: “There thiry years you have associated with me—what have you gained in them?” He replied, “I have gained eight benefits. The above is just one of them.
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midnight stroller said
Intersting….The meaning of love in Arabic is to “incline towards what is beloved, to seek nearness and closeness”. The root letters of Muhabbah, haa + baa + baa mean, “cleanliness, no dirt, tar or infection (no suspicion or confusion)”. Love is pure, resolute and decisive. Other words derived from the same root letters (haa + baa + baa) mean, “to make apparent”, “to bubble and bloom”, “to protect, hold, cling to”, “to hug and remain steadfast (i.e when a camel sits down and refuses to get up)” and “just, summary, the best part/portion of something”. Conclusively, love is giving the best of what you have to the your beloved, it demands publicity – to be declared openly, it is sure, dependable, reliable, constant. It only bubbles and blooms, increases in sincerity and intensity. Someone asked Haris Mahasabi about the signs of love. He said, “When your entire focus, attention, concentration, inclination is on your beloved while everything else slides in the background, becomes blurry and almost non-existent. When you give preference to your beloved over yourself and all that you own. When your thoughts are inclined towards your beloved whether you are in public or private. When you begin to realize your shortcomings, errors and mistakes (Love tells you what to do, how to do it, what you aren’t doing and what you shouldn’t be doing)”.
Using the above definitions and criteria, what/who is YOUR beloved? The quality of Muslims in the Quran is that they “ashadu hubba lilah” they are most intense in the love of Allah, they love Allah the most. Sufyan ibn Oyana said, “You cannot reach the heights of Deen until Allah is more beloved to you than all of His creation. Remember, he who loves the Quran loves Allah”. Quran is not an ordinary Book, it is the revelation of Allah, His personal speech, His address to humanity. If you want to know Allah, to recognize His worth, to understand His grandeur and Majesty, then you’ll have to read and understand the Quran. There is simply no other way, or shortcut for this.
Recall that it was the love of Allah which drove Ibrahim alyihi sallam to dive into the fire pit without hesitation. It was the love of Allah which enabled him to readily sacrifice his dearest worldly possession, his son. It was the love of Allah due to which he left his family, friends and even country. He left everything and everyone so he could practice Islam and preach it. Love can also give you wings. Waking up early in the morning, standing an hour in tarawee7, lowering the gaze, speaking truth, always, wearing Hijab all can become easy. Try it. Make Allah your beloved, your priority and your focus and inshahAllah your rocky mountains will become lush green vallies.
awaqas1 said
Very well said Mashallah.
Jazakallah for the much needed clarification.
amal said
love can also be a cruel thing , loving someone too much is not healthy loving allah more and deattaching yourself from people that you love will make you feel free.
awaqas1 said
Amal,
Jazakallah for leaving the comment.
I would like to add to that,
Prophet (peace be upon him) said:
“None of you believes until he loves me more than he loves his children, his parents, and all people.” In another hadith in Bukhari he said: “None of you believes until he loves me more than he loves himself.”
having said that, Concerning people, I think a lot of people when they love they only love to expect love from the other person. I might be being judgmental here but I am just trying to show another point of view here. I think instead of expecting love from people, one should love the creation of Allah Tallah, for the sake of Allah Tallah.
This is where the second part of your comment comes in, Loving Allah and detaching from yourself and people that you will make you feel. I think to put that in better words is to detach not from people or yourself but rather detach from the emotional feeling that are caused by others or others. Still have Love and respect for everyone and for yourself for the sake of Allah, and Allah Tallah will indeed reward you for doing it for his sake only, inshallah.
Allah Tallah knows best.
Best wishes.
midnight stroller said
Dear Amal,
According to some English dictionaries, the most intense degree of love, the highest degree of love is called Worship. It is the state which a person holds another being in utmost esteem, willingly and sincerely shows humility and servitude to this being out of adoration and respect. Allah says in Chapter 2 verse 165 of the Quran that this form of love should be reserved for Him alone. Otherwise love will become cruel. If humans attach their expectations to other-than Allah, they will fall prey to illusions, invite heartache and build their foundations on wind. What happened when the Christians transgressed in their love for Isa ibn Maryam alyihi sallam? They gave him the rank of God. On the last page of Hindustan times of Oct. 3, 1963, there was a picture of the late Prime Minister of India, Jawaharlal Nehru with his head inclined and hands on his knees, in the very posture that Muslims do ruku during salah. The occasion was Gandhi’s birthday anniversary, and the Indian Primes Minister was, ritually, paying homage to the father of the nation at the Gandhi Samadhi on the banks of the River Jamuna in Delhi. No different is the communist who slows his pace and lifts his hat in salute to Lenin as he passes by his Mausoleum. There is no one in this world who does not need to make someone his lord and master, even if he be only a figurehead. There has to be someone to whom he can dedicate himself and the very best that he has to offer. This longing stems from an instinctive human consciousness of a Lord and Creator, ingrained in the consciousness of every human being since birth. Subconsciously being aware of Allah, humans want more than anything to reach Him. Some people look for Him in other people or within themselves, they experiment with music, movies and drugs; they accumulate material wealth but none of these fill the void. This is when love hurts and becomes destructive. Only by understanding and patterning our lives according to the revelation of Allah (Quran) can this longing be truly satisfied.
midnight stroller said
Today, an average person, whether democrat or communist, manual worker or intellectual knows only one faith: the worship (intense love) of material progress. The temples of this faith are the gigantic factories, cinemas, chemical laboratories, dance-halls, hydroelectric works; and its priest are bankers, engineers, politician, film stars, statisticians, captains of industry, record airmen, and commissars. When everyone is inclined towards material progress, the insatiable craving after power and pleasure has, of necessity led to the break-up of Western society into hostile groups armed to the teeth and determined to destroy each other whenever and wherever their respective interests clash. Was this grand show of humanity was staged only in order to present a series of horrors and then come to an end forever? A deeply rooted sense of justice and fair play in man demands that the fate of our world be other.
But interestingly, the state of the world was no different 1500 years ago. The magnificent kingdom of Rome broke into pieces and its semi-brute and distorted laws wiped out whatever good points happened to be therein. Persian Empire became the storehouse of corruption and atrocities; China and Turkistan were the haven of bloodshed and ferocity; in India, those paying respects to Buddha committed amply shameful acts for the sake of power and worldly comforts or out of weakness in belief. Those reading the rosary of Shri Krishn had no hesitation in making men the most honourable among the created things to prostrate before the vegetables and the stones. Europe was like a forest with its men as bloodthirsty and ferocious as the beasts, the whole of Arabia was also reduced to the state of animalism. In short, nowhere in the world human race appeared sticking to its pure quality of humanness and nobility. In such an age, Muhammad sallahu alyihi wa sallam was raised as Allah’s final messenger to remove the mischief of polytheism, darkness of idolatry, pollution of corruption and disruption and defilement of vices and shamelessness, and raising the voice of La ilaha illallahh. He, sallahu alyihi wa sallam made men out of men-like people, and men to be men of highest morals. In a short span of 23 years, the worst country and the ignorant and brute people, became the teacher and the most civilized and well-mannered people on the earth. In less than 80 years alone the followers of Islam encompassed an area ranging from Atlantic ocean to Pacific ocean.
What caused this revolution? Through the signs of Allah in nature and His verses in the Quran, people realized Allah is the creator of love and all forms of beauty, the originator of all forms of power and energy. He is a vast ocean on the slightest ripple of whose surface the swimmer of the intellect is tossed around like a plaything. It is Allah Who preserves the heavens from falling and the earth from collapsing. The existence and survival of every atom in the universe is, therefore, dependent on Him. It is Allah Who bestows all bounties and all felicities, Who owns us and may freely dispose of us. Truth and reality derive their substance from His essence, and freedom, justice, and other virtues and perfections derive from the rays of His attributes. Allah is aware of the slightest motion that takes place any-where in creation can also determine for us a path leading to happiness and lay down a way of life and a system of human relations that conforms to the norms He has established in the order of creation. Allah is, after all, aware of our true interests, and it is even His right alone to lay down a path for us as the logical outcome and natural consequence of His divinity. To act in accordance with the program He lays down is the only certain guarantee for our ascent toward Him.
If being is worthy of worship, our highest degree of love, it cannot be anyone other than Allah, the Creator Who is the axis of all being. No thing and no person has such a rank as to deserve the praise and service of humans. All values other than that of Allah lack absoluteness and primacy and do not subsist in and of themselves; they are relative and serve only as a means for the attainment of degrees higher than themselves.
amal said
yeh it has been a whole month since I dropped this comment of mine
I have been struggling to understand love , what is it ? I know loving someone for the sake of allah will actually make ones life easiyer to bear and live
love is very painful I had to learn it the hard way , loving just allah , and loving purely for the sake of allah
will make the heart free
awaqas1 said
You learn as you grow, its a life long journey.
. The main is you have to learn you lesson and move on to better things. They way i look at it is, the giving heart is better than the receiving hand. So instead of wanting other people to love you. Learn you love yourself and the blessing that Allah Tallah has given you. Learn to love Allah Tallah’s creation for his sake only. Have Hope of his mercy and Love.
*Whispers* you are not the only one learning it the painful way, welcome join the club
P.S. I added a new video to video collection page called MEETING WITH ALLAH, if you have not seen it yet i would recommend it very strongly. inshallah
Allah Knows Best
best wishes
midnight stroller said
Dear Amal
I think love is beautiful. Love encompasses the Islamic view of life as universal brotherhood which applies to all who hold the faith. Abu Hurairah radi Allahu anhu narrated, Rasool Allah sallahu alyihi wa sallam said, “A momin is an embodiment of love and affection and there is no good in one who neither loves nor is loved” (Masnad Ahmed). Also, of the ninety names of Allah there is the name Al-Wadud or ‘the Loving One’, which is found in Surah 11:90 as well as Surah 85:14. It refers to Allah as being “full of loving kindness”. Regardless of the treatment we receive from others, the life of Muslims should mirror the characteristic of Al Wadud; it should be an emblem of integrity, love, and well wishing.
amal said
midnight stroller , you just said something is so perfect !
make your character from the 99 names of allah .
midnight stroller said
The Quran says that Allah is Al-Wadud (love). Allah, as our Designer and Creator, made us with needs for love. Do you ever wonder why we constantly seek love from others but never feel completely satisfied? It’s because Allah designed us for an unconditional love, and we, as people, are flawed. People, whether friends, family, or your significant other, will invariably let you down at some point. Allah wants us to find our need for love and acceptance in him first. One person cannot meet all our needs, even if he’s funny or she’s thoughtful.